Self Love is the Best Love…

Self love. What is self love, really? We hear about it, we see campaigns about it; but do we really grasp it? In a world where so much of the population is fake and becoming more fake by the day, we stray further and further away from who we really are as people. We are so “selfie” obsessed (myself included), but do we really LOVE ourselves?

Today’s post isn’t all that long, it’s really thoughts that were going through my mind and I hoped that someone, anyone, could benefit from them. I am not the beauty standard. I am not 5″11′. I am not a size 00-2. I do not have a chiseled face of the gods. I do not have the perfect nose. For a long time, those things really bothered me.

Instead, my boobs are more than a handful. My waist is not 23″ around (far from it). I am 5″7′. My thighs would give thunder a run for it’s money. My face is round. Parts of my skin are uneven in color. I have a few tiger stripes, because who calls them stretch marks anymore!? So, it’s funny. A lot of the things that I wanted to change about myself, are now the things that I really like best. Don’t get me wrong, I believe I have improvements to make, but regardless I love myself. The love I have for myself is beyond the surface.

I am trying to get back on the road of health (gym and proper eating). I won’t lie, it is really hard for me. For the last few months I haven’t really looked in the mirror without clothing. Going straight from my showers to my room, not allowing myself to look at my body in the mirror. I am quick to judge, always over critical about myself. Today, I decided to get in front of the camera and take some pictures that showed “some skin”. It’s not a lot, but it is a start. There is one picture in particular that I was afraid to post. It shows my chunky monkey tummy, but oddly enough, it was my favorite picture of the bunch.

I encourage every girl and guy to embrace themselves. The thing that you dislike the most about yourself, start saying you love it. The power of the mind is such an incredible thing. Let’s fade away from the fake and artificial and get back to the love that we once had for ourselves that is rooted so deep, under all of the dislikes. At the end of the day, you have to be good with YOU. Give a big ol’ hair flip to anyone else who has anything negative to say. Because really, they’re haters anyway 😉




  1. Kiesha Austin says:

    I absolutely loooove this posting… it is difficult for us thicker girls to fully embrace ourselves and our bodies… I’ve learned to love myself as well and I have areas of improvement too but I can care less what others think of me… like 50 Cent said, hate or love it…

    • Exactly, Kiesha!!! I’m so glad you loved the post! I was super nervous to take the pictures and share my thoughts, but that’s how you grow. Releasing and letting others in. Love the 50 quote lol. 🙂

  2. I’ve been thinking about this as of late. I feel like I put self care/love on the back burner when I’m stressed or wrapped up in day to day life. It’s no bueno, I have to work on that.

    • Hey Kim!
      Yes, it’s so easy to do! Getting caught up in the day to day and thinking about a bajillion things other than yourself. So important to set aside time for ourselves. Even if it’s just an hour a day. Meditating reading. Shopping. Anything that makes you happy. Life is soooo short! Thanks for reading 🙂

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